According to Thesaurus, rebound mean bounce back/ ricochet or synonyms to....get back, get better, get in shape, make a comeback, mend, overcome, pick up, pull through, rejuvenate, return to form, revive, start a new and etc. Or i can say in malay we call it menyambung semula ikatan...'kot'..hahah! Itu ikot kamus kepala otak I ok! Hewhewhew...
Okeylaa...mengikut pemahaman I, 'rebound' ni mcm...you have a new replacement of your lover right after you broke up. Like soooo soon! You dont even try to give yourself some space to be sad and cry about your unsuccessful relationship. And instead of staying alone at home mengenang, menangisi, menyedihi or whatever you call it, u bounce to a guy or girl that has admired and hoping for your love for sooo long before. And she or he is being sooo caring and loving, soo good listener, someone who wipe your tears and your sooo-shoulder-to-cry-on....and suddenly u felt so releaf, so calm whenever they're at your side. You feel the comfortness having them by your side all the time. And you feel so lonely and start to feel sad back if you're not with them. Then u pun mulelah rase like he's the one....he treated u very well like u have never been treated like that before...he shows how much he care...he shows how much he appreciate u...senang cakap, he treat u like a princess lahhh!! So u pon mule lah rase soooo in love with him...and bermulela your new chapter of lovestory blaaa blaaa blaaaaa....syg sgtlah kununnnnnn...wekk!
I dont know lah why a lot of people like to share their problem with me, and ask for my opinion...bukan sorg dua, tp mmg ramai laaa...i nie penahlah berniat nak jadi kaunselor since ramai sangat yang suke share problem dengan i since high school...tp result spm tak qualified la derrr....hahahha...so tinggal angan-angan jela der...so i nak citela yg since ramai sangat org share their problem with me, i got a few cases related to rebound relationship ni...so what i can say about this rebound is...i give them 3 month laaa....3 month utk depa melayari bahtera kemerdekaan...eh? Hehe...bahtera cinta pantai merdeka depa tu...then after that, siapla...dindongdangpumpangpong itu xkene ini tak kene...hewhewhew...itulaaa..org ckap jangan rebound taknak dengar...kan daaaahh....hehehe...
Oklaaah...but not all of them laa...bukan i yang tentukan jodoh depa pon kan...hihihi...it just that, through my experince in solving masalah cinta and rumahtangga org nie...rebound ni biasanya akan wangi dalam mase 3 bulan je..lepas tu, yg si rebounder ni akan mule sedar yg die sebenarnye telah menipu dirinya sendiri...hehehe...and the worst part is...if the rebounder is the one yg meninggalkan in his or her previous relationship...memang haaauuss la der! Especially kalau die punye replacement tu ade kekurangan berbanding dgn yg previous punya...i gerenti memang die akan teringat sentiasa pada the one that he or she dumped from the previous relationship. Kenapa tau? Sbb sebenar benarnyaaa ( dan sebenarnyaa...kalau nak nyanyi lagu yuna pon boleeyyyy)....hehehe...sbb sebenarnya, mase 3 bulan yg dia gunakan untuk bercinta dengan replacement die tu adalah sepatutnya masa yg die gunakan untuk merawat hati die yg luka yg sedih hiba atas kegagalan relationship die yg sblum ni...masa yg sepatutnya dia gunakan untuk muhasabah diri what is the cause of the breakage, what is wrong..mane silapnya, sape silapnye..bukannya pergi cr somebody and purak purak cinta padahal nak merawat hati yg kosong lg hiba tuuu...nampak tak kat sini murninya Islam tu...sbb tula lepas bercerai org perempuan kene ade eddah 3 bulan 10 hari...dalam eddah tu lah gunanya utk belajar dari kesilapan, perbaiki kesilapan...kan ke molek dah ajaran Allah tu kan? (chop! Tp kenape pempuan je ade eddah? Lelaki takdek? Kenape ye? Nanti i tanya ustaz and kaji ekk?) heheh...and then if dalam eddah tu rase nak berbaik smule, bolehla nak rujuk kan? Setelah dapat perbaiki kekurangan tu...ini tak..dah lah kau yang meninggalkan, lepas tu kau pegi rebound dgn tah sape2 ntah...lepas tu kau rase mcm dah tak boleh nak pegi dgn minah yg kau rebound tu, mulelah kau terhegeh2 nak cari balik awek yg kau tinggalkan tu...memang taakk lah die nak terime kau balik kan? Setelah hati ini kau sakiti...hehehe....
Jadi sebenarnya rebound ni byk keburukan die...sebenarnya u guys tak cinta pon your replacement tu. Tapi sebenarnya u're using them to heal the pain, to always be with you so that u wont feel lonely, to cheers u up, to fill the emptiness in your heart, to make you stronger dalam menempuh hari2 mendatang tanpa ada peluang untuk teringat pd si dia yang telah kau tinggalkan...but at the end, u just can't lie to yourself that u still love him or her and the cause of the breakage is just a silly thing...soo if u turn back to her and she can accept u back, then ok lah...but what if she reject u forever and ever, and at the same time u have to maintain your current relationship dengan penuh hipokrasi dan penipuan, how is that gonna work? If u're a man tahan lagi, sebab if awek lame tu nak terima balik, u lh kawen lagi satu...but if u're a girl and have married, camane nak buat? Hati tak boleh tipu der...gambar boleh tipu, action boleh di buat2...but deep down in your heart, only you and god knows how hard u are trying to hide the pain..how much you suffocates from the lie that you've created...sooo...bile dah smpi kat cni, biasenya i dont know camane nak cakap to my client (eceh! Client kau jah! Kan dah cakap berangan nak jadi kaunselor) hahahah...takkan la nak soh cerai? Ntah! Pikir la sendiri...
Soo..kesimpulannya, amiklah iktibar dari ajaran murni yang Allah dah sediakan untuk kita tu...boleh kalau nak cari org untuk hilangkan kesepian dan kesedihan tu, tapi carilah kawan2 atau family...bukannye pegi bercinta...bile dah cepat sangat dapat pengganti, haa itulah makan diaaa!!! Jauhi lah rebound...do something, go somewhere to heal your pain..not using someone to revenge that u still laku walaupon setelah ditinggalkan jejaka se'hot' die...or using someone untuk mcm saya cakap kat atas tulah! Sila lah bace balik yee...okeyla...penat dah type panjang nie, tahan berak tahan kentut....soo...chiooww dlu laa...assalamualaikum!
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